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Never Invite a Normal Person to Your Graduation!

I just had a revelation. I was thinking about Mandy Kalinowski in How to Save a Life by Sara Zarr. On the train she meets a young man who she makes increasingly uncomfortable by trying to establish an unwanted connection with him. … Continue reading

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What Do We Owe Each Other?

I got an email today from one of my best and oldest friends. That was about 6 hours ago, and all I’ve been able to feel since then is rage. You see, this friend stopped speaking to me nearly a … Continue reading

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I was Adam Lanza: a response to “I am Adam Lanza’s Mother”

The Huffington Post article “I Am Adam Lanza’s Mother” left out a crucial set of details. This mother would have us believe that her child is scary and terrifying and that it is just part of who he is. He … Continue reading

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Connecticut Shooting and the Cycles of Abuse

I am sick over the news today. We all are, I’m sure. And I have been reading every news site and facebook status update about the shooting that I can find. I’m sure I’m not alone. And everyone needs to … Continue reading

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More Thoughts on Boundaries and Some Books

I spoke about how children develop poor boundaries in the context of abusive family situations a few months ago. It’s something I have been continuing to think about and I have a few more thoughts on the issue. The first is … Continue reading

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Lovability

I’ve been struggling with something recently, and I think it’s something that a lot of kids who grow up in abusive households struggle with. Fundamental self-worth and lovability. I think some form of the question: why do bad things happen … Continue reading

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Boundaries in Abuse

I have not had an opportunity to post in awhile because I moved to New Mexico a few weeks ago. So I have been busy packing and driving across country and unpacking. I am here in New Mexico to study … Continue reading

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Best Friends and Change

I just got back to VT after spending a week down south visiting family (and seeing my little sister in the roller derby!) and then over to New Hampshire for the weekend to see two of my dearest friends. And … Continue reading

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Books for Survivors

I haven’t had much that’s coherent to say recently. I’ve been pretty involved in my own personal journey. But I think about this blog a lot and why I started it. I see kids hurting all around me. Because I … Continue reading

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Myth as Metaphor for Abuse

I’ve been powerfully blocked in my writing for quite some time now. I’ve never even believed in writer’s block. Needless to say, I feel miserable. So I’ve been seeking out inspiration for the story I’m working on. It’s based on … Continue reading

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